Garcia Family Motherhood

Learning To Be Spontaneous As A Mom of 4

October 16, 2018

I have never been the adventurous, spontaneous type… In fact, I’m most comfortable at home with no plans. Even before I had kids, I was an introverted homebody and was never one for last minute plans or impulsive decisions. And of course, motherhood has amplified that for me.

In fact, I’ve become more closed off and would rather be home with my husband and kids than anywhere else. But my husband and my daughters thrive outdoors. They love going places, doing things, running around. And over the past few months, I’ve come to terms with the fact that my family is just wired differently than me. And while everyone is different (which is the beauty of human nature), I don’t want to be the one holding my family back from adventures, impetuous moments, and long lasting childhood memories.

My little family, after we pulled over in the rain to see the beautiful Lavender Pit.

So, I’m in the process of “learning to be spontaneous”. It may sound silly, but the act of being spontaneous has been a curve ball I can’t seem to hit. Luckily, my husband is the yin to my yang and helps bring balance to our family — and in this scenario, has created some beautiful adventures for our family.

He has encouraged me to say YES to things I would’ve said “um, nope” to before. We’ve started taking last minute weekend getaways, we’ve pulled over on the side of the road in the rain because we see something “cool”, we’ve created these insanely beautiful moments with our kids – just by saying yes.

In the past two months, we’ve been to the beach, watched a gunfight at the OK corral, eaten fish on the boardwalk, danced in the rain (a LOT), gotten tattoos (not the kids lol), slept on blow up mattresses, been on roller-coasters, tried new foods… and so much more. And you guys, it has been incredible. My kids are EXPERIENCING life and new cultures and new cuisines. It has been thrilling for all of us.

It still isn’t second nature for me to be spontaneous – but these past two months have pulled me from my own isolation, helped me to get out more and to make memories for myself and my family.

(And of course, we couldn’t adventure around our beautiful Phoenix desert without our Toyota Sienna – with a DVD player for the kids and MORE than enough room for all of us — and our 4 car seats!!)



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