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10 Things I Want All Women to Know

March 25, 2021

This post is sponsored by Poise® brand, but all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Every year March is designated Women’s History Month by Presidential proclamation. According to the National Women’s History Museum, the month is set aside to honor women’s contributions in American history. We celebrate Women’s History Month to remind ourselves of the accomplishments of women throughout the years to our culture and society. 

From science to politics, it is a chance to reflect on the trailblazing women who lead the way for change. But it’s also important to me, because throughout history, women have  faced societal stigmas. Learning the history of women can lead to changes for the future of women – which is something I want my daughters to grow up knowing. From voting rights to equal pay for equal work, to how we’re treated in and out of the home, I want my daughters to have a strong understanding of women’s history so they know their worth.

Being a woman is something I hold sacred. Especially because of all we’ve confronted historically. And I wanted to share some things I’ve learned in my almost 27 years of being a woman… including some things I wish I would’ve known sooner, some things it took me way too long to learn and some things I’ve always carried with me.

  1. My body… MY choices. | And it applies to everything. My body isn’t for you. The clothes I wear aren’t for you. What I choose to do WITH my body or TO my body has nothing to do with you. Whether that’s wearing a certain outfit, getting a touch of facial filler, or even getting a medical procedure. It has ZERO percent to do with anyone else. MY CHOICE. MY BUSINESS. Period.
  1. Seek out what makes YOU comfortable. | Bladder leaks are something I wish I had known about so much sooner, because I could’ve avoided so much shame. Brands like Poise help me feel less alone. I wear Poise® Daily Liners every day and they make me feel so much more confident. I don’t have to worry about wetness or odor, and I feel fresh and clean all day long.
  2. Some people are only there for a season. | I used to crave lifelong friendships. But where I am in life ebbs and flows, and some people are only there for a season. It took me too long to realize that. And too long to stop forcing friendships that had already played all the way out.
  3. Wear the freaking swimsuit & get in the freaking pool. | Life is TOO freaking short to hide. Wear the dang swimsuit. Your kids won’t remember what you looked like at the pool. They’ll remember if you got in, if you were present, the memories you made together.
  4. Sunscreen is important. | I used to dread my mom putting sunscreen on me as a child and as I grew up, avoided it. And now, as my skin changes and ages, I’ve finally realized the importance of sunscreen. According to SkinCancer.org, regular daily use of SPF 15 sunscreen can reduce your risk of developing squamous cell carcinoma (SCC) by about 40 percent, and lower your melanoma risk by 50 percent. Help prevent premature skin aging caused by the sun, including wrinkles, sagging and age spots.
  5. Sex toys are life-changing. | My sex life leveled up (like a hundred million levels) when we started using sex toys. Never. Going. Back. Alternate title: you deserve daily orgasms. Yes you, momma. 
  6. Some people will never be “your people”, and that’s ok. | The amount of time I spent trying to fit in with people who could care less about me makes me sick to my stomach. But now I know. There are people that will never accept me for who I am, and those people aren’t MY people.
  7. Stop giving a crap about what people think. | I’m still working on this one. Even though I KNOW I need to stop caring about what people think of me, it’s a hard one. I have a circle of people I love and trust and I always want them to keep me accountable, but I want to be better about tuning out outside noise. The opinions of strangers and bullies and trolls are irrelevant, and I need to remember that.
  8. You are worthy and your worth has NOTHING to do with your weight. | And while you’re at it, throw away the scale. It doesn’t matter what size your jeans are, what the scale says, or even what society says. Your worth has nothing to do with it. And friend, YOU ARE WORTHY.
  9. Happiness starts with you. | It doesn’t matter how much money you have, what kind of car or home you have, how many kids you have, if you have a partner or not, where you vacation… none of that can make you happy, if you weren’t happy with your own self to begin with. If you can’t find happiness in yourself, you won’t find it elsewhere.

Those are just a few things I’ve learned, and I hope some of them resonated with you, too.

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